HAPPY 124TH BIRTHDAY FRED MERTZ

Unless you lived under a rock your whole life or lived on a desert island with no TV you surely know about "I LOVE LUCY" and William Frawley who played Fred Mertz.

Last night I was bored out of my skull and happened upon a site called Where the Stars are Buried: An introduction: Stars' Graves. That then lead me to Bill Frawley's WikiPedia page and subsequently his FIND A GRAVE memorial page.

I was surprised to see that today is his birthday- maybe Bill wanted me to look for his bio last night just because of that!

If Bill Frawley was still alive he would be 124-year-old today- he was born in 1887...the President of the United States at the time was Grover Cleveland!

(Grover Cleveland fact: when they were still in use his picture was on the $1000 bill..right click to see pic)

But sadly the world lost Bill on March 3, 1966 and in a few days it will be 45 years since he passed away.

Most all of the people you see on I Love Lucy reruns have passed on now. Vivian Vance, who played wife Ethel, died of cancer in 1979 and ten years later the world lost Lucille Ball. Desi Arnaz passed away from cancer as well in 1986.

But to watch these shows it is hard to think of these people as dead.

To give you a little background on the man that will be perpetually known as Fred Mertz long after I am dead and gone let's look at what Wikipedia says:

William Clement Frawley (February 26, 1887 – March 3, 1966) was a stage and screen actor, with well over a hundred films to his credit, but gained greater fame in television as Fred Mertz on I Love Lucy and as "Uncle" Bub O'Casey on My Three Sons.

On I Love Lucy (1951) and on The Lucy-Desi Comedy Hour (1957), Frawley played Lucy and Ricky Ricardo's friend and landlord Fred Mertz. He and Vivian Vance, who played his wife Ethel in the series, had great chemistry on screen, but in real life had a dislike for each other. This was attributed to her vocal resentment of having to play wife to a man 25 years her senior, which she took as an insult. When he got wind of it, it offended him so he never forgave her.

The two co-stars were given the opportunity to move into their own "Fred and Ethel" spin-off once Lucy had run its course in 1960. Despite his animosity towards her, Frawley saw a lucrative opportunity and was game, but Ms. Vance nixed the idea, having no interest in ever working with Frawley again. He never forgave her for this, since the series could have made him extremely wealthy.

William Frawley next hit it big on My Three Sons 1960 in his role as "Uncle Bub" O’Casey, a role he played from 1960 to 1965. The original premise for the series was for Frawley to be the show’s star, overseeing three nieces, but the network decided to switch the kids to boys, then snapped up Disney’s top movie star Fred MacMurray as the lead when he indicated interest after they offered him a preposterously shortened work schedule, relegating Frawley to another supporting role after all.

Frawley reportedly never felt comfortable with the out-of-sequence filming method used on My Three Sons after doing I Love Lucy in sequence for years.

Most television series are filmed out of sequence, but My Three Sons was unusually so, to an almost surreal degree: each season’s episodes were arranged so that series star MacMurray could shoot all of his scenes during a single intensive two-week period; Frawley and the other actors worked around the absent MacMurray the rest of the year. It was a very different experience from the sequential filming schedule of ‘ ‘I Love Lucy’ ‘.

By almost all accounts, Frawley’s off-screen personality was not that much different from his on-screen demeanor. A notorious misanthrope, with one brief failed marriage behind him and a fondness for the bottle, he lived in the same bachelor apartment most of his years in Hollywood.

According to Desi Arnaz’s memoir "A Book", Frawley eventually lost his driver’s license due to drunk driving, and befriended a cabbie who drove him around regularly.

When deciding whether to hire Frawley for the role of Fred Mertz on I Love Lucy, Arnaz made it clear to him that, if he showed up drunk for work, he would "work around it" twice, but after that, Frawley would not only be fired from the program but blacklisted throughout the entertainment industry. Frawley, whom no one would hire at that point, readily agreed.

He never showed up drunk to work, and in fact, Arnaz became one of his few close friends.

Poor health forced Frawley’s retirement.

He was dropped from My Three Sons after the studio could no longer obtain insurance on him.

He was angry about being let go, and developed a dislike of actor William Demarest, who replaced him, accusing him of stealing his job.

(One of his final performances was an October 1965 guest appearance in Lucy’s subsequent series The Lucy Show (1962-1968). Right click to see pic.

He collapsed of a heart attack on March 3, 1966, and died, aged 79. He had been walking along Hollywood Boulevard after seeing a movie.

After he died, Arnaz took out a full-page ad in the trade papers, consisting of Frawley’s picture, framed in black, and three words: "Buenas noches, amigo!"

Vance’s reaction was the polar opposite. She and her second husband were dining out when they heard the news, and reportedly, Vance shamelessly shouted, "Champagne for everybody!"

Frawley is buried in the San Fernando Mission Cemetery in Mission Hills, Los Angeles, California.

One thing that I didn't know about Bill Frawley was that off screen he was a huge baseball nut like I am today!

I think he and I would have got along pretty well since we both love baseball and we are both cantankerous!

According to another site that I found, here with a great piece on Bill, he did a number of sports related movies...here is a partial list:

1. Hold ‘Em Yale (1935) Baseball
2. Alibi Ike (1935) Baseball
3. Rose Bowl (1936) Football
4. Touchdown, Army (1938) Football
5. Golden Gloves (1940) Boxing
6. It Happened in Flatbush (1942) Baseball
7. Moonlight in Havana (1942) Baseball
8. Gentleman Jim (1942) Boxing
9. The Babe Ruth Story (1948) Baseball
10. Joe Palooka in Winner Take All (1948) Boxing
11. Kill the Umpire (1950) Baseball
12. Rhubarb (1951) Baseball
13. Safe at Home (1962) Baseball

I do know that he was a big Yankee fan and in one I Love Lucy episode he shows just how much of a fan he is.

So even though you are long gone, Bill, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

You helped give millions of laughs to millions of people and helped with the rest of the cast and crew of I Love Lucy to change the face of television at the time and set the standard for what is used in tellevision sitcoms today so your birthday should be remembered!

At very least Fred Mertz is a national icon and probably more popular than Lincoln or Washington who had birthdays this month as well!

FINAL TELEVISON APPEARANCE- CAMEO ON THE LUCY SHOW

Lucy Carmichael (Lucille Ball) meets someone that looks JUST like someone she used to know -- I Love Lucy's William Frawley as a horse trainer!

FOR "I LOVE LUCY" FANS THIS IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST INTERESTING CLIPS ON YOUTUBE. SOMEONE IN THE AUDIENCE IN 1951 FILMED, IN COLOR, THE SHOW AS IT WAS BEING PERFORMED LIVE!

This clip is originally on the Season 7-9 DVD as a bonus footage item :)

Cheers!

MAKE YOUR OWN KIND OF MUSIC

I got a couple of scathing e-mails from Justin Bieber fans after I did the last post here on the little git. To be fair I went to YouTube and listened to some of his music and...well he sings good but I am not into a little white kid acting like a little black kid and quite frankly his style of music is just not my cup of tea.

Yesterday on my Facebook I posted a few songs by "Mama" Cass Elliot.

My partner and i were playing a station on I-tunes and randomly heard a Mamas and Papas song and it got me thinking about Cass and how she defied what the music industry, especially today, will sign as an artist.

Cass always had a weight problem that was glandular and despite the rumors she never choked on a ham sandwich- she died of heart failure way too young and at the peak of her solo career. She was an incredible singer and quite the entertainer.

It got me thinking about pop music today and what sells...or better yet what is sold to us and especially youth. Lady Gaga and acts like Justin Bieber sell. Gaga is a manufactured star now that is like a present day Madonna and Bieber...well let's get real here.

If he was an obese 17-year-old he probably would have never been signed to a record deal. The reason people like that boy so much is because of the cuteness factor (something I really don't see at all btw).

Whether it is a teenage girl or boy or an oldie that lusts after teen pop stars it seems that there was more of a buzz about this kid when the paparazzi caught him shirtless on a beach rather than the quality of his music.

Not to rag on what singing talent Bieber has but seriously if he looked like he does in this photoshop picture and had man boobs in those beach shirtless pics do you think half of more of his avid fan base would still be there?

I don't think so becaiuse today with all the media outlets online, on the TV and even on our phones, with the popularity of music videos they have to have singers that are visually appealing.

Look at the group from the 80's and 90's Wilson Phillips and member Carnie Wilson...partly for health reason but mostly to make sure she was able to advance the career especially on TV she had gastric bypass surgery and just last year was struggling with her weight again in this People magazine piece.

This woman too has an amazingly beautiful voice yet sadly when you put her name into YouTube or Google you find more articles and videos that have to do with her weight loss or gain then the music she made and her singing talent.

Lucky for the people in the 60's and early 70's that they didn't have MTV and that female musicians didn't have to dress up like ten dollar whores on a street corner to sell their music...the world embraced Cass Elliot because not only was she a great entertainer she also was one hell of a great vocalist.

So go ahead and love homophobic Justin Bieber just because you fantasize having tjis twink naked in bed with you. If that is your scene that is on you. I prefer to judge talent based on vocal ability not a cuteness factor.

It just makes me wonder how many chubby boys and girls have tried to get a record deal with an amzing singing voice but was turned down by record company executives because they were too fat or not pretty enough to sell their CD's.

Sad really that there is probably hundreds of talented singers that will never get a break in the United States just because of that while this little wiggery twit makes bank because people think he is a hotty.

To read more about the life and career of Cass Elliot right click here to check out the biography seen in the first pic in this post today!

Here is a song with Carnie Wilson singing lead vocals:



And this is a great song by Cass Elliot when she was shedding the "Mama" part of the name so she would be respected as solo act Cass Elliot.

GO AHEAD CHUBBY SINGERS...LIKE CASS SAID- "MAKE YOUR OWN KIND OF MUSIC!"

FUCK YOU JUSTIN BIEBER

Sorry I haven't posted here in forever but I really didn't have too much to write about...well actually I do but the time isn't right yet.

Today however this trailer park looking singer- Justin Bieber pissed me off in his Rolling Stone interview.

Pink News reported the story like this:

In an interview with Rolling Stone magazine, he appeared to label homosexuality as a choice rather than something that is uncontrollable.

He also spoke out against abortion even when pregnancy is caused by rape, saying “everything happens for a reason.”
The interview for next month’s Rolling Stone magazine has been distributed via blogs.

When asked what his views on homosexuality are, Bieber responded: “It’s everyone’s own decision to do that. It doesn’t affect me and shouldn’t affect anyone else.”

It is not clear whether he intended to label homosexuality as a lifestyle choice.

NOT CLEAR PINK NEWS?

So the same gay boys that buy your shitty music decide one day to "do that" and subject themselves to bullying, ridicule, beatings and other traumas that many gay teens and adults go through, Justin?

Come on his statement was crystal clear- maybe that is because he choses not to do that or the record company told him he must be straight or his music will not sell.

Bieber’s position stands in contrast with that of Lady Gaga who last year said: “there are some people in this world that believe being gay is a choice. It’s not a choice, we’re born this way.” Her single ‘Born This Way’ has been described as the new gay anthem by Sir Elton John.

In his interview with Rolling Stone magazine, Bieber went on to say “I think you should just wait for the person you’re … in love with,” when asked about abstinence.

Despite his strong Christian background he did not argue against pre-martial sex.

“I really don’t believe in abortion,” he told the magazine “I think [an embryo] is a human. It’s like killing a baby.”

He added that while it is “really sad” for a woman to become pregnant after being raped, he claimed that “everything happens for a reason.”

“I don’t know how that would be a reason,” he added. “I guess I haven’t been in that position, so I wouldn’t be able to judge that.”

Ok this kid is an idiot- bright as a small appliance bulb.

But what really infuriates me is Rolling Stone magazine...why the fuck did they ask him questions about ADULT issues when he clearly isn't mature enough to give an informed opinion and is just parroting what he has been fed by parents and preachers?

Isn't Rolling Stone a music magazine and with teen singers shouldn't the interview and conversation be about his music...not whether or not he approves of the millions of fags that buys his music or whether or not a female that was brutally raped should keep the baby conceived by her rapist?

The man in the pic is probably one of those oldies that like this boy because he thinks he is cute not because of any talent...that is just an assumption but probably not too far off the mark.

Shame on Rolling Stone and shame on this ignorant little fuck who, more than likely (just look at Ricky Martin) is deep in the corporate music business closet because gay teens will not sell CD's!

So piss off Justin Bieber...no one chooses to be gay...science already has proved that...but people can choose to stay in the closet for the sake of a lucrative movie or music career...aint that so Justin Booby?

Here's a real good and really straight canadian- and a "Justin" who isn't an idiot like you...Justin LeBeau from Squirtz!

U.N. SAYS: KILL THE QUEERS

When most of us in America think of the two words- "gays" and "hung" and put them together a guy like in the picture below comes to mind (if you like him right click here to see more)....

...but in many countries like Iran HUNG GAYS means what this sad picture, below to the right, displays.

This is what happens to gay teens in Iran- as well as many other countries in this world. This photo-article clearly documents what the United Nations, just this past week, has now condoned in several parts of the world including Iran.

Here is an excerpt from a piece from November 20. 2010:

Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people were once again subject to the whims of homophobia and religious and cultural extremism this week, thanks to a United Nations vote that removed “sexual orientation” from a

resolution that protects people from arbitrary executions. In other words, the UN General Assembly this week voted to allow LGBT people to be executed without cause.

According to the International Gay and Lesbians Human Rights Commission, the UN General Assembly’s Third Committee on Social, Cultural and Humanitarian issues removed “sexual orientation” from a resolution addressing extrajudicial, summary or arbitrary executions this past week in a vote that was overwhelming represented by a majority of African, Middle East and Carribean nations.

For a UN committee that addresses human rights questions that affect people all over the world, by removing protections for LGBT persons from a category of arbitrary executions, belies the objective and purpose of a committee whose focus this year is “on the examination of human rights questions,” according to its website.

A number of LGBT human rights advocates were surprised by the decidedly lop-sided vote, including Mark Bromley, the chair of the Council on Global Equality, a Washington, D.C. based organization that brings together human rights organizations, LGBT groups, philanthropists and corporate leaders to ”encourage a clearer and stronger American voice on human rights concerns impacting LGBT communities around the world.”

You can right click here to read the entire piece...really worth a read even if you don't live in the affected countries or territories.

As for me I am not surprised- the UN should be ashamed of itself because it, in effect, has just sanctioned state justified murder without cause and left unprotected many gay and lesbians in African, Middle East and Caribbean nations.

Shame on the U.N.

Shame.

This is a short video telling you about the two boys that were hung- just for being gay...and the United Nations apparently thinks this sort of thing is ok.

...and all this on the video is in the name of a god or a religion- believe me if the Christian Taliban had their way in the United States queers would be strung up as well here...think that is crazy? How many years was it until we decided lynching black folk was morally wrong in this country?

Think about it.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Someone asked me why today was selected to be Thanksgiving Day in the United States...here is what the wikipedia page says:

"Thanksgiving Day is a harvest festival celebrated primarily in the United States and Canada. Traditionally, it has been a time to give thanks for a bountiful harvest. While it may have been religious in origin, Thanksgiving is now primarily identified as a secular holiday.[1] It is sometimes casually referred to as Turkey Day.

In Canada, Thanksgiving Day is celebrated on the second Monday in October, which is Columbus Day in the United States. In the United States, it falls on the fourth Thursday of November.

The precise historical origin of the holiday is disputed. Although Americans commonly believe that the first Thanksgiving happened in 1621 at Plymouth, Massachusetts, there is some evidence for an earlier harvest celebration by Spanish explorers in Florida during 1565. There was also a celebration two years before Plymouth (in 1619) in Virginia. There was a Thanksgiving of sorts in Newfoundland, modern-day Canada in 1578 but it was to celebrate a homecoming instead of the harvest.

Thanksgiving Day is also celebrated in Leiden, in the The Netherlands. A different holiday which uses the same name is celebrated at a similar time of year in the island of Grenada."

There you have it!

Oh and this is probably the most dumb ass Thanksgivinbg moment in history!

Remember this?

Her out was that she just pardoned one turkey...not the rest getting their heads put in the grinder!

With that....

THE SEXUALIZATION OF JUSTIN BIEBER

I am getting some real bizzare questions on my Formspring...so I want to just mention something about it this morning before I get set to do the Borderboys post.

The latest were a string of questions about Justin Bieber. Now quite frankly until tjis morning I never really listened to anything this kid did so I just knew his name and not his music.

One of the questions asked "Do you think Justin Bieber is well hung?"

My response on my Formspring was "I don't listen to Justin Bieber and quite frankly barely know who he is - not my type of music. I really don't care about his cock size but I bet he looks good in drag."

Just look at the cheekbones...I can see him all painted up and doing a show at a local gay club in the mid west lol.

Seriously, until today I never really bothered to listen to his music. It just isn't the type of music I like . I have seen him on interviews and every time my gaydar goes off like a three-alarm fire siren.

The kid sings good but the music industry made sure they write him songs to appeal to teenage girls. Everything is heterosexual in the music biz when it comes to a male teen performer.

As I looked around Google this morning I couldn't get over how many fan sites, like this one on blogspot, spend more time talikning about shirtless- photoshopped or taken by paparazi, then his music.

At the AMERICAN MUSIC AWARDS Justin Bieber taking home his first-ever AMAs winning 4 total, including Artist of the Year!

Alright the guy does have a good voice but you have to ask yourself- if he was a hundred pounds heavier and didn't have the drag queen perfect face and the fit body would this 16-year-old Canadian twink be as much of a sensation as he seems to be?

I don't think so.

No offense against this kid's talent...he clearly is a good singer but herein lies one of the hypocriosies of our world. In the music business they almost encourage teenage girls and others to sexualize mid-teen performers like Justin Bieber to sell him to a fan base.

But if someone posts random pics of guys his age on blogspot, in speedos, suddenly they get a suspeneded account on most blog sites because they are sexualizing underage boys.

But in cases like Justin, the Jonas Brothers and so many others it was the sex and the wondering- like the ano0nymous person that asked the question- what lies below the belt, if he shaves his pubes like his armpits and a myriad of other things that have absolutely nothing to do with his musical talent is what the music promoters really want people in their teen celeberties fan base to pay attention to.

Hell it seems it has gone so far with this guy that people are even making Photoshop Justin Bieber Fleshlight ads...

...right click here to see the article.

This singer is 16-years-old and I guess because the music business wants to sell him as a sex object it is alright. But sexualize any other 16-year-old and you will be label a perv or a pedophile.

I personally don't care if this kid is hung or not...what I care about is the music.

But sadly when you have someone that appears to be as queer as a three dollar bill like Justin is to me (I am not saying that he is for sure- just relying on my gaydar that usually is pretty accurate in real life) they are not allowed to be a gay teen singer and females are thrust upon them because in our world gay teens that sing- in the eyes of the music world- will not sell as much as a hetero one will.

When we get an adult openly gay singer then we get a campy stereotype like Adam Lambert...that guy pissed me off. He could have come off as openly guy but mainstream but he chose to perform and present himself like the nelly, queeny stereotype most straights think we all are.

Maybe one day the music biz will wake up and understand that there is a market for one of these teen singers- who are obviously gay to be themselves and sing songs that gay teens can relate to. Until then teens will be shoved in the closet and presented as heterosexual to the masses of screaming teeny6 girls to sell them.

It makes me wonder- in the back of the minds of guys like Justin Bieber, whether he wins awards because of the music or because girls, boys and dirty old men (and I am sure some women too...yes adult females get into teens too...it just isn't as prominent in the news) want to see "how hung he is" or secretly sexualize him.

As for his music- it's not my style but he is a talented singer.

Concerning my Formspring- please don't ask me to comment on the cock size of under age people- famous or not. I put the thing up so readers could ask sensible questions or Borderboys readers could ask questions about performers or the reviews I write.

Oh and don't write in and say, "Chucky you sexualized Justin in your post". I used the pictures today as an example of what people tend to9 be posting- there is a bigger buzz on the blogs I lokked at this morning about this guy half naked as opposed to the actual music he creates- or has carefully written for him to appease the young female fan base.

For those of you, like I, who have never really heard this guy here are a couple of videos...

HARRY POTTER AND THE TREASURE TRAIL

Who would have thought, ten years ago, when the first Harry Potter film - "Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone" that the innocent looking little wizard would develop into grown man complete with a fuzzy treasure trail?

Years ago I was given one of the JK Rowling books- I think it was the third one "Prisoner of Azkaban" and at first I wondered why in the hell my friend wanted me to write a children's book.

But I gave it a go anyway and became engrossed in the story and more particularly the writing style of JK Rowling.

Simplistic enough for a child to read yet laden with subtle moral lessons- that she stated she never intended consciously to do the book and the series grabbed me.

The first movie and the second was quite true to the novel. The third was alright and missed only a few points.

But by the time they released the fourth film "Goblet of Fire" (I had already read that book) I was sorely disappointed at how they stripped away some of the brilliant character development that JK Rowling had originally written.

I know the movies are not supposed to be the novels- word for word but I still would have hoped they would have been a bit better.

By far, during the course of the Harry Potter run, the books out-shined the movies ten to one.

So now I am debating whether I actually want to go see this movie in two parts and add to the 61 plus million it made just yesterday.

My partner, who didn't read the books, but likes the movies wants to go see it...so I probably will end up seeing it as well.

When I do I will let you know what I think.

Have you seen the movie?

If so please comment and let me know what you thought of part one!

"E" online has posted the full video of the movie's premiere in NYC...and here it is for you rabid Harry Potter fans!

GHOST ARE NOW WAITING FOR YOU

On the Borderboys blog I just put up a bonus post which answered a reader question about my favorite paranormal/Halloween XXX gay movie. The hands down winner is "The Twink Whisperer" starring Aaron Tyler as the ghost.

You can right click here if you would like to read that post.

The same reader asked if I had a favorite mainstream site or YouTube channel that I like to watch when Halloween comes around.

My answer was indeed I do- it is called PARANORMAL TV on YouTube and they have a bunch of really interesting and well put together programs.

Last night I watched a couple of the episodes and will probably watch a few more after I get done.

Like it or not ghost, spirits, angels, demons or whatever you want to call them exist...maybe you will get haunted tonight as the dark approaches and you look for your trick or treat this Halloween.

Here is my favorite song about ghosts and dying...SOAD- QUESTION

Here are couple of episodes I liked last night!

California's Most Haunted

Real Ghost Stories: Hollywood Ghosts

HUNG 13-YEAR-OLD

Before I head over to Borderboys and do the daily post I had to come to my personal blog...which I know I have neglected...and share a couple of things with you all.

Yesterday was the 12th anniversary of the brutal murder of Matthew Sheppard and twelve years later the country seems to have ignored the plight of bullied kids- especially gay, lesbian, bi or transgendered youth.

When Matthew was murdered and then again a couple of years ago when Lawrence Kind was shot at school by a boy he asked to be his Valentine the news media jumps on the bandwagon and for a week or two everyone is all about ending the mental abuse, via bullying and homophobic attacks, of teenagers forced to walk into the lions den which normally is their school.

In a recent Huffington Post article, here, the writer of the piece starts out by mentioning 13-year-old, self-identified gay teen named Seth Walsh- who after internalizing daily attacks...mostly mental and emotional, from homophobic peers he hung himself on a tree in the family's back yard. (Right click here to see the LA Times story).

Here is how the Huffington Post piece starts:

"Last month, a gentle 13-year-old boy named Seth Walsh went out to the backyard of his house in the small town of Tehachapi, California, and hung himself.

His mother Wendy knew that he was being bullied and harassed because he was gay, but what could she do?

School officials did nothing to intervene, and claim to this day that there was no problem. There was no local chapter of Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays to support her, and no LGBT organizations had any presence in her small town.

All Wendy could do was tell Seth she loved him-- but that wasn't enough."

Aside from the lack of bullying laws and the fact that parents of children who are taught that it alright to bash a queer are not held accountable there is another big problem that twelve years after Matthew Sheppard and weeks after this gentle soul took his own life that seems to be ignored in my opinion.

Before I elaborate please watch this before we continue...



This story made headlines, as have a slew of other suicides by gay teens in the past few weeks. There are also kids that survive like the young man in the Huffington Post story...you really need to go watch the video report on that as well.

There are calls by gay activists groups, celebrities and others for stricter bullying laws and other measures to attempt to help kids like Seth.

But what is never addressed is homophobia when it comes to who should be there to help young gay teens like this boy.

I know of no where in the United States where there is a gay adult male mentoring program for gay teens and their families. These kids can talk to professionals- many times hetero but excepting themselves. But the gay teen really never has...unless they are on of the few and far between that have an adult gay family member- another adult male mentor...preferably ones like me that suffered years of abuse by homophobic peers in junior and senior high school and survived.

You may ask yourself, why is that?

Well it goes hand in hand with the same homophobia that other teens use to bash gay teens. There is this conception that if a gay male is involved with gay youth there is immediately something sexual involved in the older adult males mind. You don't find this type of stereotypical thinking in other situations.

And because of this thinking many gay males, who were survivors of teenage abuse by homophobic bullies, care about kids like Seth but hide in the shadows because there is no organization or mentor program that I know of for gay teens suffering homophobic abuse in the home or at school.

Yes there is Big Brothers but that does not focus on specifically pairing up young gay teens with adult "big brothers' that can not only be an advisor, mentor and advocate for the kid but also for the family as well.

Remember in the case of Seth, according to the Huffington Post story, the school officials claimed there was no problem and did nothing. She had absolutely no affirmative helping organization to turn to.

Ask yourself- if Seth had been afforded the luxury many straight teens have of mentorship would this kid have lost hope and hung himself on a tree and subsequently ended his life at age 13?

I think he would still be here. But when these kids have no one to talk to that really understands the heart-wrenching pain they are silently suffering from inside it sits like a cancer inside until...like in the sad case of Seth Walsh and the tragic case of Lawrence King it ends in a life lost too young and for no good reason.

I could not counsel a teenage mother properly- I could emphathize with her strugglebut since I biologically could have never been a teenage mother I have no practical frame of reference to draw from to offer support and advice.

Conversely I was an emotionally abused gay teenager- outed at age twelve...constantly intimidated and harassed until I exploded and put a stop to it in 11th grade- so I know every single thing this boy was feeling before he hung himself.

Saddness, dispair, helplessness, bewilderment, low self esteem asnd self worth just to name a few. With kids like Seth it not only is the overt bullying- the name calling and the ntimidation. Body language of peers and family play an imnportant role in creating the dispondancy many of these gay kids have today.

Even as an adult body language is the number one thing I look for in people and what, as in a current life case, brings sadness to my heart. You can tell when someone goes through the motions just for show.

Something in your soul knows it.

A gay teen can tell when he is being placated by people because they have to and not because it is done with love and understanding- they are not as stupid or unaware as we think.

In my life as a teen I knew when people would say they cared and understood because they felt obligated or they were doing it for show. In my adult life I see that a lot as well. One person I know hugs all over my boyfriend- I know he truly loves him and he shows it. I am told I am equally loved and valued yet the person's body language tells a different story.

I watch the way he is with my partner...open and freely expressing love and affection and yet with me is it to the point where I have to beg for the affection. When a hug or a show of the "love" that is ptrofessed actually occurs it is quick and the person pulls away. Any initmate discussions have the person cringing and making faces that he obviously cannot see- but my partner has and he sees the difference as well.

So the point of that story is people that have been emotionally abused in their lives can tell by the body language of others what lies behind the surface and facade- and yes when you dincerely do love the other person it does tear your heart out knowing that you are being placated and played like a fiddle.

What does this have to do with Seth and gay adult mentors?

That is just one thing that a ga adult mentor can do for a gay youth- teach them how to recognize who really loves and supports them and who, for whatever reason does it for show. Because when it gets down to the wire for any of us we want tobe certain that we turn to those who mean what they say through actins and not words.

But until there is a change in thinking- straight societies idea that all gay adult males want to get into the pants of gay youth and gay male adults get a pair of balkls and start stepping up to the plate to help kids like Seth we will continue to see suicides, murders or at best the death of the sould of young people who would otherwise turn out to be great humans beings if people would just learn acceptence andmind thjeir own fucking business in this world.

That's the thoughts I have on this today...I will try to write more this werek and will close with the news report about Seth's memorial service below.




Further reading- A GAY TEEN'S SUICIDE NOTE

TOP 5 HELIX PERFORMERS

On my formspring someone asked me who the top 5 Helix stars of all time are. A couple of names come to mind such as Aaron Tyler, Tommy Anders and Jesse Starr...but I need to take some time to think about a top 5 list.

I can say that AARON TYLER would be my number 1 and that is not just because we are close friends.

I can tell you that it was Aaron Tyler that got me interested in the videos Helix was producing way back when. Maybe it was the impish cuteness or the big balls that caught my eye...or maybe the perfect bubble butt...but I do clearly remember being an Aaron Tyler fan first and foremost when I started buying Helix videos.

In fact the first Helix video I bought was Twink Juice 2 and then Bareback Pickup.

Flash forward six years now and I still have to pinch myself to think that less than 20 feet away the twink that defined the word "twink" and the object of many good wanks back then is sleeping here peacefully as I write this.

It seems sort of surreal that 4 years ago I was watching him on video and today in the present he is a close friend and I have actually filmed a scene or two with him topping and bottoming. You can see one of the scenes I filmed on his X-tube site here.

So yes, I would have to put him at the top of a best of Helix list.

As far as who the top 5 Helix performers of all time goes I am sure different people will have different performers in their top 5 but you have to include Aaron it it because he was the face of twink when that word started being used a lot 4 years ago.

Before I close today I want to mention one other thing about Aaron Tyler.

For years now there has been a nasty rumor going around about Aaron being HIV positive.

THAT SIMPLY IS NOT TRUE.

How do I know?

This year at San Diego Pride I watched as he got an HIV test- from start to finish I observed the process- and he came out 100% HIV NEGATIVE.

I have it on film and as soon as I get it off my camera and edited into one film I will add it to this post.

So in the meantime if you hear any bullshit about him being positive consider it just that because I saw with my own eyes his actual test results!

A PINKBERRY FOR DAVID

Remember David Archuleta from American Idol in 2008?

The giggly little twink that made millions of teenage girls go through multiple pairs of panties (boys too I assume).

Well I was catching up on some back reading of the advocate online today and came across this piece about him back in April:

"American Idol season 7 star David Archuleta is denying speculation that he is gay after being spotted at a gay nightclub.

He claims to have gone to the New York City club to see his dance-artist friend Charice perform before grabbing some Pinkberry, according to his Twitter page."

OK, let's stop there for a second- Pinkberry? Ok if you like that joint it doesn't mean you are gay but I just find it amusing since our Pinkberry in San Diego is smack dab in the middle of gay Hillcrest!

"His flurry of tweets in reaction talk on Twitter attempted to let fans know that he is not actually gay. One tweet explains, "NO worries all, I wouldn't get into things like that intentionally haha" and another says, "I just didn't want you guys to be worried, so had to let you guys know the facts!"

Ok so what would they be worried about? His record company- his legion of screaming female fans- THAT DAVID IS A COCKSUCKER!

Tell me what that really has to do with being a performer? Well nothing to me but to the people that sell his stuff to the masses, don't ask don't tell wont even work. One thing that I hate is when you see a celebrity like this that you know- if it wasn't for fame and, in his case, religious shame preaching (he is a Mormon) he would be out.

Let's take a look at his tweets.

His tweets on the matter (oldest to newest):

Hey guys just wanted to clear something up real quick lol. Last night in New York I got invited to go and see my friend Charice perform.. [link]

Mental note to self: always ask where before you go! Wasn’t my kind of place lol, and I had no clue! I guess you live and learn. The.. [link]

LET'S STOP HERE FOR A SECOND...THIS GUY IS A PRETTY MAJOR RECORDING ARTIST AND THESE PEOPLE HAVE PEOPLE THAT TELL THEM WHEN TO EAT, WHEN TO FART AND CERTAINLY TELL THEM ABOUT THE PLACES THEY ARE MAKING APPEARANCES AT. UNLESS HE RAN AWAY ON HIS OWN I REALLY FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE THAT HE HAD NO CLUE! I THINK HE KNEW WHAT TYPE OF JOINT IT WAS BUT DIDN'T EXPECT HIS FANS TO TRIP OUT ABOUT HIM GOING TO A GAY CLUB TO SEE CHARICE PERFORM.

More of his tweets-

upside was that Clarice was awesome, and she has an incredible voice. Hope that clears things up! Been seeing some of the tweets.. sheesh! [link]

Can get crazy quick. NO worries all, I wouldn’t get into things like that intentionally haha. Hope you guys have a good Sunday! [link]

GET INTO THINGS LIKE THAT? WHAT STEPPING FOOT INSIDE A CLUB FULL OF QUEERS- MANY OF WHOM HAVE BOUGHT YOUR DEBUT CD?

@kahlidalbow Back home . Spending time with the family! I just didn’t want you guys to be worried so had to let you guys know the facts! [link]

WORRIED THAT HE IS A COCKSUCKER I GUESS- I SUPPOSE HIS MUSIC WOULD SUDDENLY SUCK ASS TO ALL THESE PANTY-WET GIRLS IF HE EVER DID COME OUT- HYPOCRITES.

@DebVaFOD Thanks a bunch! Charice is great and she didn’t mean to cause any harm haha. She apologized a lot after. She’s way nice lol. [link]

WHAT DID SHE HAVE TO APOLOGIZE FOR? ALMOST GETTING HIM OUTED?

@hamghost I have friends who are gay, and they’re great people. Whether they’re gay or not doesn’t change how I think of them. [link]

@hamghost I have nothing against anyone, I’m sorry if that’s how it came across. I’m just not into the partying scene lol. [link]

SOMEONE CURIOUSLY MUST HAVE READ HIS BEADS- WHILE TRYING TO EASE THE FEARS OF HOMOPHOBIC FEMALE FANS ARCHIE CAME OFF AS A HOMOPHOBE HIMSELF! WHOOPS!

SO NOW IT WASN'T THE FACT THAT IT WAS A GAY CLUB BUT A CLUB IN GENERAL...OK...AND IF HE LIKES GAY PEOPLE SO MUCH, AND REALLY ISN'T A SCREAMING BOTTOM QUEEN,HOW COME HE WASN'T BOOKED AT ANY GAY PRIDE EVENT OR SHOWED SUPPORT IN A PARADE?

@officialcharice Aw haha thanks Charice! Sorry for causing any problems, I know you didn’t mean to cause any confusion [link]

Now what is the point of all this besides showing you how gay teen performers are shoved into the closet?...ok I don't know if he is gay or bi for a fact but my gaydar is pretty accurate and it dings like a four alarm fire bell when I see him.

Someone asked me last week why I like Danny Noriega, who was also on the show that year and who I twit to from time to time.

Long story short, Mama Fluff and I watched Idol that year because a local gal Carly Smithson- who was actually our waitress when we ate at The Field restaurant before she got on the show was in the competition.

The added bonus was Danny. Both Mama Fluff and I agreed that he had a lot of talent and that we thought he was unique for being himself on the show.

What I don't get though is why this person is not signed to a record deal yet. I mean come on folks- campy stereotype Adam Lambert has a record deal and Danny is a better singer than him in my opinion so what the fuck?

I think Ellen DeGeneres, who just started her own record label should give this guy a chance to do an album. He doesn't have to be campy like Lambert to sell records he just has to sing as good as he does.

Earlier this year he released a signal, that you can listen to and buy here on Amazon.

It is really a good song and I think it is time someone steps up to the plate and gives this guy what he deserves.

Twinky Archuleta came in second to a guy named David Cook who had a horridly screechy voice. Archie would have won but the voters (and people on the show) that thought having a gay - or perceived gay American Idol was a bad idea made sure he came in second even though he was the better singer in the end.

No offense against Archuleta but I think when he gets older and the teenage girls they market him to grow up and their is a new made to be straight twinky on the block we will see this guy do a Ricky Martin.

Meanwhile, if given the chance, Danny Noriega will continue to be himself and entertain for years.

I just may start the petition campaign to get Ellen to sign Danny to a record deal..not because he is gay but because he is a great singer and entertainer and he is the epitome of what gay pride is.

Being proud of who and what you are even if it means watching others fly past you because they can convince brain dead drooling females and straight males that they are just as much of a straight as they are.

I like Archuleta's music but his statements about gays sound like those that many in the closet make- I have no trouble with gay people, I have gay friends but it would be awful if I was one. But I guess in our world one has to do what they have to do to be a sucess because the music industry generally doesn't like us queers unless we are stereotypes like Adam Lambert and they certainly frown on openly gay teens being on TV or being signed to record deals- because only straight people buy CD's and watch TV, right?

Here is one of Archie's new songs...





He sang this but if he believes the lyrics why did he apologize for being in a gay club when I bet a lot of gays bought his music and voted for him because they thought he was cute.

MEET MAMA FLUFF

A bunch of my Borderboys blog readers asked me to post a pic of my partner so here he is-presenting "Mama Fluff"

He was given that name by Aaron Tyler while we were with him filming because he was pressed into duty when an emergency fluffing was needed.

Anyhow we just celebrated our 8th anniversary together yesterday!

Beyond debuting him- he may have a blog up soon as well- I want to publicly wish him a happy anniversary and thank him for being the one constant in my life for the last 8 years.

No matter whether times have been good or bad he has been here for me and it is probably the best and most satisfying partnership I have had in my lifetime.

People with closed minds don't understand him some of the times but those who see beyond what is tangible on earth usually like him a lot- probably better than me- because of his kind...and less abrasive nature...I can be a bit blunt and that turns people that cannot handle truth off sometimes.



So I love you Mama Fluff- thanks for 8 wonderful years and here is hoping the next eight are as satisfying as the first!

FREE SPEECH OR HATE SPEECH?

I came across a piece today about an issue that is cropping up Gay Pride Festival in Minneapolis and is an issue that pops out it's vile head at most Gay Pride events.

The article asks, "Must an expressive association that paid for a permit in a public park to advance its message include someone using the event to convey an opposing message? Specifically, must an anti-gay preacher and others be allowed to condemn homosexuality in signs and literature by roaming the permit grounds of a gay-pride celebration?"

It goes on to say...

"This year, an anti-gay activist and preacher named Brian Johnson and his family have insisted that they be given access to the permit grounds during the hours of the festival in order to display signs, distribute literature, and personally counsel attendees with an opposing message: that homosexuality is sinful and must be condemned rather than accepted. Johnson was arrested for trespass last year after he confronted some festival-goers with his message of repentance and condemnation."

Now let's think a minute.

For any other type of event- that shows say ethnic pride people would be outraged if some sick son of a bitches, in the name of their idea of what a god is, had signs saying stuff like "Niggers are God's Mistake" or "God Hates Mexicans".

There would be a public outcry- chances are angry participants would start a riot or at least beat the hell out of the freaks.

But when it comes to us gay folk- especially here in San Diego we just hold our signs and no one has the balls to stand up to these people.

Let me take you back to 1969- when the first protests started the people involved were instructed to dress mainstream- long dresses and suits and ties. They were told no matter what act peacefully and respectfully...until gay folk had enough of the abuse and the Stonewall Riot occurred. That event in New York City sparked some change that we all benefit from in the present day.

The trouble is that now days it seems we have the same sort of people organization the Pride events..and even the people who organized the NO H8 campaign here with that peace nick mentally that did nothing to affect change prior to the Stonewall riot in 1969.

Those of us in California saw how affective not taking the bully (the Mormon Church and other backers of Prop 8) worked for us. Our right to buy a state issued marriage license was taken away.

Don't you think it is about time we start standing up for ourselves- whether it means taking on a neighbor or family member one on one or a taking on the religious freaks that come to our events to preach hate? The organizers think it makes us look good in the press by being civil, polite and non-confrontational but it does not. It makes us looks like the scared little faggots time and time again- shut up and put in our place as second class citizens in a country where there is supposed to be "liberty and justice for all" whether you fuck an ass or a vagina.

As far as the piece is concerned I am all for free speech and people to have their first amendment right but when does free speech turn into hate speech?

The first amendment says, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances."

No where in that bill of rights does it say you can twist the words of Jesus Christ around and use it to promote hate, violence and discrimination against a segment of the population you either fear or simply cannot accept in your own world.

I have been at a lot of events where these sick bastards march around with their anti-gay signs and no one- no one dares to take on these people- we are just too nice.

But just like the bully in school the sickness- that is Christian Fundamentalism (it is a sickness and for some a real addiction...these people border on delusional) - will continue to bully until the victim stands up to them. It does not mean having a rational discussion- these people are so insane that they truly believe that because they keep their small minds stuck in that book of theirs that they are the ones that God loves.

Trouble is these freaks end up playing God more than listening to their God...so I think their God just shakes his or her head and plugs his ears...they always say we are going to hell but they seem to forget what the man they name themselves after cautioned them against- "Judge not lest you be judged".

Back to the bully- until the victim takes a risk...in a school kids case it might be getting expelled for taking on a bully and in the adult would arrest for civil disobedience...the bully will continue on.

So if these people are allowed to march around that Pride event- or even at ours next month gay folk have abig choice to make. Let them continue being the bully and spewing out hate disguised as some sort of religion that is based on nothing but their own fears and prejudices or to finally take on the bully.

Thousands attend the Gay Pride event here in San Diego. I am sure a boat load will be at the Gay Pride Festival in Minneapolis so how about this time people get a set of balls and simply run these freakish bastards out of the event.

I don't condone random violence but there have been many times when I just wanted to take the sign of one of these God Hates fags freaks and beat the living shit out of them with it.

Not because I get my jollies hurting another human being but because I know- from personal experience as a teen and from the stories I have heard and read about in my lifetime how their twisted religion, there ability to get away with publicly promoted hate and violence against a certain segment of the population

It is about time we- as a so-called community do whatever it takes to shut up these bastards. Yes in their fake churches they can preach what they want but it goes beyond just crossing boundaries and invading gay events.

The messages of hate towards gays- based on crap written by MEN over 2000 YEARS AGO leads to daily abuse of teenage children in schools and homes. It leads to gay bashing at work or worse physical attacks in the street.

It leads homophobes to believe they have the god given right to mentally, physically and psychologically abuse fellow human beings.

Allowing these people with our silence, inaction or especially complacency leads to gay teens wanting to kill themselves...out of shame and fear. Now you tell me where Jesus said to his followers to go around and play God so you can humiliate, torture and abuse another human being just because you do not like what they are?

And letting these sign carrying freaks hold sway in America while we sit back with flowers in our hair, yelling our well rehearsed chants without taking them on in an aggressive way can lead to what happened back in 2008.

I will leave you with the clip from Ellen...this would have never happened if people like this freak that wants to be let into the Gay Pride Festival in Minneapolis didn't use their fake religion to convince this boy's killer that God would appreciate that more than letting a faggot live in peace.

It is time for a change...let's find our balls people.




Think about it.