I nicknamed him Sparky because when he gets excited about something he gets a spark in his eyes.
We have been to together for over seven years now and there is no one else in this world that I would want to be spending my life with.
It took me a long time to find someone who really was what I consider to be a soul mate. We didn't get "legally married" when it was legal here in California because it would have affected him financially but in out hearts we are just as married as the straight couple next door.
If you were following along on the Borderboys blog you know that some absolute lunatic- who still hasn't had the balls to show his face and identify who he really is accused me of a lot of things- primarily starting the blog to befriend "porn stars" so I could fuck the,
So I thought I would do a quick post here that let you all get you know more about me and my personal life...especially how we view sex and my blogging about the adult industry.
We just celebrated our seven year anniversary on June 26th this year and I cannot believe so much time has passed already. We are pretty much a low key couple but the thing that makes it special and has made it last is simply good communication.
Right from the start we had a conversation about monogamy and how that tends to fuck up a lot of relationships in the end.
The concept is nice but we both agree that after a lot of time passes, one or the other wants something different in bed. It's not because the attraction is gone..it just because well...people are human. Think about eating hamburgers every single day of your life. Sooner or later you will have a craving for something else. that happens with all committed couples straight or gay.
We came to an agreement, before we committed to live together, to maintain monogamous as a rule but if one or the other wanted something different we would do it together.
(that's Sparky last year without the goatee)
Thus far that has worked for us.
After all this time we have never had a fight over jealousy or another man. Everything I do he knows and vice-versa. We have no need to secret keep because everything is out in the open.
It works for us because we make a distinction between sex and love.
He knows I would kill for him if I have to and I have no doubts at all where his heart lies. He is the best thing that ever happened in my life and I intend to have him in my life until I drop dead and leave this earth.
As far as sex goes, if we do have a three way, it is usually so I can let him "be a top". Sparky is versatile and I am a strict top so sometimes he wants to pound some ass- he is really good at it too...and to be fair to him I let him do his thing.
Plus he says I give the "best head he has ever had" (that's me blowing Sparky with my dirty yard work hat on... LOL)
Since its all out in the open there is no need for jealousy.
I just feel like I am paying attention to his needs. I feel like when partners do not do that- or balk at three ways or bringing another into the bedroom... that heightens the risk of one or the other having one of those nasty, sex-based affairs that usually tear people apart.
Now this is not to say that we do this every weekend.
The extra stuff is few and far between. I am satisfied watching him fuck the hell out of a guy because I am a big time voyeur and it's hot watching my man do his thing.
This arrangement may not work for every couple but it has worked for us.
So there is a brief glimpse into my sex life at home and what I like.
So the next time you all hears any garbage about me being so desperate to have to spend hours a day, preparing blog posts just in the hopes of getting a porn star in bed tell them they are out of their minds and send them here.
I have a great man in my life that I wouldn't trade for the world.
He satisfies me in and out of bed and Chucky is not one to throw away something that is good in his life!
Cheers!
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